Of late, I’ve been thinking a lot about happiness – about how to be happier and how to make those around me and those I love more happy. And then this morning, I opened up my inbox to find a forward by Uncle KN which pretty much sums it up. Here’s an excerpt:
“Happiness does not come through destiny, one has to work for it. If you give goodness, you get back goodness. One should take care of Thoughts as they make the word. Take care of words as they result in Action. Be careful about actions as they become Habits. Habits build up your Character. That determines your Destiny and hence your Life.” H.H. 14th Dalai Lama
I find that I am more impatient, more critical both of myself and others – and ironically more defensive, more stressed, more attached than I want to be or would like to think I am. I don’t see people I care about as often as I’d like. I don’t keep in touch with friends and family by phone or email as much as I’d like. I don’t even sing as much as I used to. Yikes! Time for a change.
As I see it in my anal rententive mind, there are four steps to rectifying a problem:
- maintaining the changes
Two down – two to go.
I also started to think about what makes me happy. Here’re a few:
- Tea in bed
- Warm pajamas from the dryer
- Curling up with a good book and a cup of tea on a cold, wet day (what is it about those days that beg for a good book?)
- After a long winter, stepping out of the house without a down jacket, hat, gloves & scarf for the first time
- Fresh flowers – orange tulips if I were being fussy
- A good chocolate cake and cold milk
- A good laugh over the past with friends/family
- Watching people enjoy something I made/did for them – food, crafts, birthday cakes etc.
- Family traditions
- Starting and finishing a project (it’s the middle part that’s hard)
- Singing with a group and playing guitar to some nostalgic, half-remembered song
- Not having to be the responsible/sensible one
- Little r
What makes you happy?